Why do guys play hard to get??
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On the girl point of view, it's infuriating and just makes them feel unwanted, so we generally give up.
Why do guys do it?
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Consider this: if they would be drooling over you the sec they saw you, they would probably not seem very dominant and masculine at all. It's a primal thing really. Act to impress.
Not that I do it. Oh no.
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I'll agree with Potestas too, in saying that it might just be their acting 'macho'.
But then again, some guys just might not be interested.
I wouldn't take anything too personally, though. Sometimes, guys don't even know that they're being a turn-off.
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Though for girls, it's more of a "game" thing. And also the fact that every crush-help book I've ever read always says that guys love a "challenge" or a "mystery" so playing hard to get is best way to get him interested or something or other 
Anyhow, in my experience, it's a mix of being macho and insecurities. What I mean by the latter is that they might be "embarrassed" that they're so head-over-heels over someone, so they "play hard to get" maybe not just to see if the girl is interested, but also perhaps to convince themselves they don't like the girl. Yeah, tis very strange. Not every guy is like that, but hey.
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This one time, a girl blamed me for playing hard to get.
The problem is, I really didn't know she liked me in the first place.
So I never played hard to get, I just wasn't interested in her and I didn't know she was interested in me.
Caelestis wrote:
Anyhow, in my experience, it's a mix of being macho and insecurities. What I mean by the latter is that they might be "embarrassed" that they're so head-over-heels over someone, so they "play hard to get" maybe not just to see if the girl is interested, but also perhaps to convince themselves they don't like the girl. Yeah, tis very strange. Not every guy is like that, but hey.
Hmm.. I don't think you're right. At least, I've never tought of playing hard to get becourse I don't want to admit to myself that I like that girl. But that could just be me.
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Berendsnor wrote:
Ehm..
This one time, a girl blamed me for playing hard to get.
The problem is, I really didn't know she liked me in the first place.
So I never played hard to get, I just wasn't interested in her and I didn't know she was interested in me.
Hmm.. I don't think you're right. At least, I've never tought of playing hard to get becourse I don't want to admit to myself that I like that girl. But that could just be me.
This one time, a girl blamed me for playing hard to get.
The problem is, I really didn't know she liked me in the first place.
So I never played hard to get, I just wasn't interested in her and I didn't know she was interested in me.
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Anyhow, in my experience, it's a mix of being macho and insecurities. What I mean by the latter is that they might be "embarrassed" that they're so head-over-heels over someone, so they "play hard to get" maybe not just to see if the girl is interested, but also perhaps to convince themselves they don't like the girl. Yeah, tis very strange. Not every guy is like that, but hey.
Hmm.. I don't think you're right. At least, I've never tought of playing hard to get becourse I don't want to admit to myself that I like that girl. But that could just be me.
I understand. Like I said, not every guy is, but in my experience, this is sometimes the case. I think I've only truly seen it once, so that doesn't mean it's common. I was just saying another idea.
Oh, yes, girls can take things out of context too much XD If we think a guy may like us, anything he does could be sign (even something simple like, "He looked at me" no joke). I imagine some guys do this too, but eh.
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Caelestis wrote:
Oh, yes, girls can take things out of context too much XD If we think a guy may like us, anything he does could be sign (even something simple like, "He looked at me" no joke). I imagine some guys do this too, but eh.
In my case, it was the exact opposite.
She said she gave me REALLY obvious signs, but I didn't notice anything of it. Even my friends noticed those signs. God I'm hopeless at this XD
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Berendsnor wrote:
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Oh, yes, girls can take things out of context too much XD If we think a guy may like us, anything he does could be sign (even something simple like, "He looked at me" no joke). I imagine some guys do this too, but eh.
In my case, it was the exact opposite.
She said she gave me REALLY obvious signs, but I didn't notice anything of it. Even my friends noticed those signs. God I'm hopeless at this XD
Aw, don't feel bad.
I can't read signs, either. Had a guy I THOUGHT liked me, so I reciprocated the casual "flirting" I guess you could say. Then the next year (lol, long time) he started being a jerk to me, for no apparent reason. Then, when I was "kind of" taken with another guy, he kept badgering me about me and this new dude. The new guy and I didn't work out, so we broke up, but no reaction from the previous guy.We still talk (the first guy I mentioned and me), but it's always extremely sarcastic and not like it used to be (not that I care, since I found a new guy). Though I do notice that when he sat next to me one time, he turned to face me with his whole body (which could mean nothing, but it's a little strange, considering his attitude towards me)
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Caelestis wrote:
Aw, don't feel bad. I can't read signs, either. Had a guy I THOUGHT liked me, so I reciprocated the casual "flirting" I guess you could say. Then the next year (lol, long time) he started being a jerk to me, for no apparent reason. Then, when I was "kind of" taken with another guy, he kept badgering me about me and this new dude. The new guy and I didn't work out, so we broke up, but no reaction from the previous guy.
We still talk (the first guy I mentioned and me), but it's always extremely sarcastic and not like it used to be (not that I care, since I found a new guy). Though I do notice that when he sat next to me one time, he turned to face me with his whole body (which could mean nothing, but it's a little strange, considering his attitude towards me)
I can't read signs, either. Had a guy I THOUGHT liked me, so I reciprocated the casual "flirting" I guess you could say. Then the next year (lol, long time) he started being a jerk to me, for no apparent reason. Then, when I was "kind of" taken with another guy, he kept badgering me about me and this new dude. The new guy and I didn't work out, so we broke up, but no reaction from the previous guy.We still talk (the first guy I mentioned and me), but it's always extremely sarcastic and not like it used to be (not that I care, since I found a new guy). Though I do notice that when he sat next to me one time, he turned to face me with his whole body (which could mean nothing, but it's a little strange, considering his attitude towards me)
Hmm.. I can't really explain why he acts the way he does, but I'm pretty sure he's not playing hard to get. If you like a girl and decide to play hard to get, then you wouldn't 'be a jerk' to that girl, as you stated he did. I would say that he isn't interested in you.
Again, I really suck at things like this, so I could be terribily wrong. But this is just what my own logic tells me.
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Anyway, what were we talking about? Oh, why guys play hard to get, lol. To be quite honest, I actually think (and this is different from what i said before, lol) that the guy is probably just not interested, not necessarily that he's playing hard to get. Yeah, there's the macho aspect, but eh. (I've been saying that a lot, lol)
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Proxy wrote:
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Ehm.. What?
Caelestis wrote:
Yeah, I know that now. Honestly, it was more of his actions earlier that I didn't fully explain that he kinda did the whole "play hard to get" but eh, doesn't matter.
Anyway, what were we talking about? Oh, why guys play hard to get, lol. To be quite honest, I actually think (and this is different from what i said before, lol) that the guy is probably just not interested, not necessarily that he's playing hard to get. Yeah, there's the macho aspect, but eh. (I've been saying that a lot, lol)
Anyway, what were we talking about? Oh, why guys play hard to get, lol. To be quite honest, I actually think (and this is different from what i said before, lol) that the guy is probably just not interested, not necessarily that he's playing hard to get. Yeah, there's the macho aspect, but eh. (I've been saying that a lot, lol)
Yeah, some guys do act like jerks to girls, just for the macho aspect. I REALLY try not to be one of them.
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...We don't. Trust me, we don't.
Oh, I know some guys who do. And they are even proud of it
But most of us don't.
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CarChaseCityMan wrote:
Meh. If guys do it, well, they're not too bright. Ladies take everything into account, and "I don't like you" attitudes seem like a bad strategy. Like a "it's so stupid, it just might work!"
It's a crapshoot.
Some people probably do like the element of mystery with playing hard to get. Some people probably hate being unsure if their feelings are reciprocated.
It all depends on the person; there's really no way to generalize it (into a coherent whole thing...).
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I think girls are really the ones who do that. Guys are more just oblivious. I don't mean that in a bad way, they just aren't all 'zomg pay attention to emotions' all the time.
Actually I was just gonna say that ...xD
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Then you're not being obvious enough.
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My last view is 'the game' concept, playing hard to get can inflate ego because 'this girl' is trying soo hard to impress me, good beer guzzling pub fodder that type of talk to some people plus it provides a validility to feelings or a test of them, if a little cold shoulder is enough to put someones interest to sleep then was there anything there to begin with?
Uncertainty makes people act like jerks at times, they do not understand fo UgH grab the pitchfork and KILL THE MONSTER!! RAWR! Then there is simply the case of no-interest there to start with.
These things are never the same for anyone and generalisation is near impossible, it is just like sociology.. there is no true answer, just partial ones.
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Unless of course they've been good at playing hard to get and I just didn't notice, I can be quite slow.
But I agree that girls are the worst. I'd never ask someone out, I'm too shy and scared lol
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loobywright wrote:
I don't think I've ever met a bloke who plays hard to get, most are pretty up front about what they want (which can sometimes be annoying depending on what they want).
Unless of course they've been good at playing hard to get and I just didn't notice, I can be quite slow.
But I agree that girls are the worst. I'd never ask someone out, I'm too shy and scared lol
Unless of course they've been good at playing hard to get and I just didn't notice, I can be quite slow.
But I agree that girls are the worst. I'd never ask someone out, I'm too shy and scared lol
Aww! How sorta of traditional cute and desirable.. if I'd not read some of the mouth foaming fangirl posts that is.
I will say it is odd that in this day and age that is it still generally men who 'chase' girls IE make the 'move' rather than just be subtle.. I know for one thing, I suck so bad at catching subtle hints and I wish for the day of equal cave-person clubbing and dragging back to caves, might save me a bit of hassle, even if it means an increase in need for painkillers.
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Aww! How sorta of traditional cute and desirable.. if I'd not read some of the mouth foaming fangirl posts that is.
LOL! Yeah, me being a foamy fangirl doesn't exactly make me seem like the shy type -_- haha
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Damnit, I'm really nto good at this. Manage to frak up every time. It'd help if girls just said what they want. Guys =/= mind readers, it helps to remember that.
Par example, one girl had me believeing she loved me for half a year, I was abotu to ask her out, then she revealed she was never interested int he first place.
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In my experience, I've had a terrible record of "coming on too strong." I just put everything on the table at once and expect the girl to accept it. In that effect, I haven't been very successful in the dating field...
well, there was two times when i dated online. the first was totally into another guy (not even 12 hours after we started dating) and we broke up not too long after that. it didnt even last a day, and it really did teach me a lesson. the second time was much better. we ended up breaking up due to personal issues on her end that im still unaware of to this day
Anyways, I've kinda thought the girls around here have always been the ones who played hard to get... Maybe due to the fact that the outspoken ones give off the image that "all guys are jerks" in the area. I can also be rather oblivious to someone else's feelings, so... yeah. If I was playing "hard to get", it would simply be that I'm oblivious to one's feelings. It would be unlikely in my case, because I develop crushes on others rather easily.
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Most guys are just Dicks... You can't help it, You can't change it, Life goes on.
Hey our kind means well
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Tinker wrote:
DoMaya wrote:
Most guys are just Dicks... You can't help it, You can't change it, Life goes on.
Hey our kind means well
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Fuck dat.
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Wrestler Hatman wrote:
Tinker wrote:
DoMaya wrote:
Most guys are just Dicks... You can't help it, You can't change it, Life goes on.
Hey our kind means well
:(
Fuck dat.
That's the right, MASCULINE answer.
Awesomesauce XD Love that scene
Anyhow, don't worry Tinker, girls can be.... (someone'd like to fill in the blank for a girl who doesn't swear lol)
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Tinker wrote:
DoMaya wrote:
Most guys are just Dicks... You can't help it, You can't change it, Life goes on.
Hey our kind means well
:(
We may mean well but MOST guys just don't act like they give two s*#ts.
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Wrestler Hatman wrote:
Awesomesauce XD Love that scene
Anyhow, don't worry Tinker, girls can be.... (someone'd like to fill in the blank for a girl who doesn't swear lol)
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If we're going that road..
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Wrestler Hatman wrote:
Tinker wrote:
DoMaya wrote:
Most guys are just Dicks... You can't help it, You can't change it, Life goes on.
Hey our kind means well
:(
Fuck dat.
That's the right, MASCULINE answer.
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A) They're oblivious
B) They want to look cool
C) Their mind's are all like "ADERP DERP"
D) They may be intimidated, especially by upfront and outspoken women like me. (Even more so if the gal knows how to throw a punch)
But then again, girls are just as hard to get as guys. Even to this day, I don't understand my own species.
Wait, I know why. Because all that stupid emotion crap is retarded. If I want to ask someone out I go right up to their face, look 'em in the eye, and completely fumble my lines because my mind travels faster than my mouth!
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Haileyvoir wrote:
Guys play hard to get because:
A) They're oblivious
B) They want to look cool
C) Their mind's are all like "ADERP DERP"
D) They may be intimidated, especially by upfront and outspoken women like me. (Even more so if the gal knows how to throw a punch)
But then again, girls are just as hard to get as guys. Even to this day, I don't understand my own species.
Wait, I know why. Because all that stupid emotion crap is retarded. If I want to ask someone out I go right up to their face, look 'em in the eye, and completely fumble my lines because my mind travels faster than my mouth!
A) They're oblivious
B) They want to look cool
C) Their mind's are all like "ADERP DERP"
D) They may be intimidated, especially by upfront and outspoken women like me. (Even more so if the gal knows how to throw a punch)
But then again, girls are just as hard to get as guys. Even to this day, I don't understand my own species.
Wait, I know why. Because all that stupid emotion crap is retarded. If I want to ask someone out I go right up to their face, look 'em in the eye, and completely fumble my lines because my mind travels faster than my mouth!
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